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Fear, The Hidden Root of Marriage Problems
Discover God's Grace to Heal Wounds, Restore Peace, and Thrive Together
What if the biggest threat to your marriage isn’t communication, finances, or personality differences… but fear?
Fear hides.
Fear disguises itself.
Fear rewrites stories in your mind and reshapes the atmosphere of your home.
It shows up as:
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withdrawal after conflict
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defensiveness or criticism
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walking on eggshells
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shutting down emotionally
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perfectionism or pressure
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avoiding hard conversations
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overthinking or overcontrolling
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distance in intimacy
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anxiety about the future
Beneath every surface issue is a deeper battle—
fear quietly controlling how you react, connect, and love.
In Fear, The Hidden Root of Marriage Problems, Christian marriage coach Veronica Sutherland-Ocnacuwenga reveals the powerful truth that transformed her own 40-year marriage and the lives of other couples she has guided:
When fear loses its power, love finally has room to grow.
This book is your roadmap to emotional safety, spiritual clarity, and lasting unity
Discover the Hidden Fears Sabotaging Your Marriage
From finances to intimacy, communication to parenting, Veronica uncovers how fear takes root and offers a biblical, practical path to uprooting it.
You will learn:
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how fear distorts how you see your spouse
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how fear fuels conflict and emotional distance
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how fear shapes communication and trust
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how childhood wounds show up in your marriage today
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how fear creates cycles that keep you stuck
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how to replace fear with love, courage, and connection
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how to build a spiritual foundation stronger than your fears
Filled With Transformational Tools
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The Fear Discovery Assessment
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30-Day Fear-Free Marriage Challenge
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A Couple’s Prayer of Renewal
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Guided reflection questions for every chapter
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Scripture woven through each topic
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A companion action plan
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A renewal ceremony
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A full leader’s guide for groups
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A retreat version for church events
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This is not just a book, it’s a marriage experience, a healing journey, and a spiritual reset.
Who is this book For?
This book is perfect for:
Married couples wanting deeper connection, peace, and emotional safety
Engaged couples preparing for a strong, Christ-centered foundation
Christian wives longing for clarity, communication, and trust
Couples on the edge of emotional exhaustion who want hope
Leaders, pastors, counselors, and small groups
If you want a relationship rooted in truth, unity, courage, and God’s perfect love, this book is your guide
A Message of Hope:
You don’t have to live in a marriage ruled by fear.
You don’t have to repeat old patterns.
You don’t have to face uncertainty alone.
God designed your marriage for:
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peace
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connection
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vulnerability
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intimacy
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teamwork
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purpose
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joy
And all of these flourish when fear is exposed and removed.
Take the Journey. Transform Your Marriage.
Fear, The Hidden Root of Marriage Problems will help you move from:
❌ misunderstanding → ✔ understanding
❌ self-protection → ✔ connection
❌ emotional distance → ✔ emotional safety
❌ fear-driven reactions → ✔ love-driven responses
❌ surviving → ✔ thriving
Your marriage can be stronger than fear.
Your love can be deeper than your past.
Your connection can be more powerful than the challenges you face.
Let this book lead you into a new season
Fear-Free. Faith-Filled. Forever.
Fear, The Hidden Root of Marriage Problems
Fear, The Hidden Root of Marriage Problems uncovers what many couples overlook: fear—not communication or finances—is often the real source of conflict. This practical, faith-based guide helps couples identify the fears shaping their reactions and replace them with emotional safety, trust, and God’s perfect love.
Through biblical insight, real-life examples, and simple tools, couples will learn how to communicate with confidence, rebuild intimacy, create a shared vision, and strengthen their marriage from the inside out. Perfect for engaged or married Christian couples who want a Christ-centered, fear-free marriage rooted in courage, connection, and lasting love.